How to leverage the in-between season.
It’s becoming more common for students to take a gap year before college to grow and learn about themselves and the world. A gap year is an opportunity for 18-year-olds to recalibrate or calibrate for the first time to the world around them.
Similarly, it’s not uncommon for us later in life to need to step back for a season of recalibration. We probably can’t take a year off, but a gap-month is often more possible than we might initially think. Rest is important for any leader and prioritizing it through a gap month can help you continue to grow as a leader.
Sometimes, you're at a point where you need to step away, refocus, restore and restart.
In 2019 I took four weeks off to step back, to evaluate and adjust things in my life. I felt uncertain about my future direction, but I knew that other adjustments needed to be made before I could begin to dive into that decision.
Sometimes, you're at a point where you need to step away, refocus, restore and restart. If you’re like me, you may have accrued extra vacation time because you weren’t taking it before. I recognize everyone’s reality is different, from your company’s PTO policy to what your boss actually allows. But if you need to restart, then follow this to the degree that you can.
Here is a guide for you to make your gap-month happen. I’ve broken it down into four steps.
I chose not to use the term plan here. I would advise against making a detailed, something for each day, kind of plan. You also don’t want to enter your gap-month with no forethought or direction but still hoping it will be fruitful. The key is to be intentional when designing your gap-month.
Two key ingredients to designing your gap month are:
Similar to plans, I intentionally avoided using the term goals here. It’s essential to identify what you’re hoping will result from your gap-month. Goals are a great tool. However, I would caution you against setting too many goals that create an anxiety of achievement during your month. If you’re a driven person, the need for achievement will already be an issue and a barrier to experiencing real rest.
So write down your desired outcomes. Some of mine were:
Once you have these written down, take them to someone who knows you well and will give you honest feedback. Share with them why you want these outcomes and ask if they feel these are the best outcomes for your gap-month.
I would advise against making a detailed, something for each day, kind of plan. You also don’t want to enter your gap-month with no forethought or direction but still hoping it will be fruitful. The key is to be intentional when designing your gap-month.
It’s a wise practice to seek guidance from those who have walked the road that is ahead of you. Find others who have taken a sabbatical or a season to step back and reorient. Ask them about their experience. What outcomes were they hoping for? How did they prepare or spend their time? You want to ask for insight and advice, but don’t just follow someone else’s plan. Use what you learn to design a gap-month specific to you.
Once I identified my desired outcomes, I decided to set a rhythm to my time by theming three days of my week.
Monday – reflection, reading, writing
Tuesday – enjoy the outdoors
Wednesday – unnecessary creativity
I also made two rules:
I intentionally left Thursday through Sunday unallocated to give space for opportunities that came up and the freedom to be spontaneous.
You want to make the most of your gap-month, which will take a little preparation. Here are a couple of tips to prepare well:
Taking a month off will seem strange to others. Many won’t understand or know how to respond.
Taking a month off will seem strange to others. Many won’t understand or know how to respond. It will help to create a short explanation. You want it brief enough that it can be said in a single breath. Something like, “I’m taking a month to pull back and recalibrate to focus on the most important things.” You don’t need to explain everything. Just share what you’re doing and why.
Unless you’re between jobs, taking a month-long break from work will require some prep. Think through your responsibilities and consider who will take each part. You will then want to capture this information in a concise outline. Here’s a template for you…
Thanks for reaching out. I will be out of the office from __________ to __________. I will not be checking messages at all between those dates. Please direct your communication as follows:
This format helps people triage their own information needs. Include it in your away message on your primary communication channels. For me, this included email, Slack, and Workplace.
There is a lot to consider when you try to schedule your gap-month. Think through the kind of things you intend to do. For example, if you want to go camping and spend extended periods outdoors but live in Minnesota, maybe don’t pick January as your month. Think through your work. Are there busy or slow seasons that your can plan around?
If you’re married, consider your partner’s work schedule. This isn’t a chance to disengage with home and family but rather to re-engage more fully. If you have kids and part of your plan is to spend more quality time with them, maybe the summer is a good time for your gap month.
You’re finally here! It’s time to begin… but what do you do? People are habitual creatures, and without some intentionality, it's natural to drift back into old habits. There is a danger that a gap month won’t look that different than the previous months.
If you struggle with resting on the weekends, your gap-month will not come naturally at first.
I recommend beginning your gap month by getting away. It could be a family vacation or spending four days camping, or at an Airbnb. The key is to break with the everyday routines and surroundings. This helps you create a fresh start to establish a new normal.
Slowing down can be very difficult for many people. It’s not uncommon to feel anxious about what you will accomplish. If you struggle with resting on the weekends, your gap-month will not come naturally at first.
If this is where you find yourself, it’s ok. You’re detoxing from the busyness and hectic pace you have been living. Detox is never easy or pleasant at first, but it brings new life.
Two books I found helpful in the process of detoxing from busyness are The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry and 12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You.
As you go through your month, I encourage you to connect weekly with someone to share how it’s going. This shouldn’t be your boss. This should be a friend who knows you well. Maybe the person who helped you refine your gap-month outcomes. Verbally processing your experience will help you identify things you’re learning and experiencing. It will also help you stay true to your purpose for your gap month.
It’s easy to spend our day reacting to what comes at us. What if you could be proactive, intentionally making decisions based on your priorities? It is possible!
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As you near the end of your gap-month, you may feel some uncertainty about how to re-enter. You may be recharged, ready to take on the world. Or you may be seeing things differently than before and hesitant to go back to the way things were.
Begin to identify what you want to bring with you from your gap-month. Are there new habits, like running or writing, that you began and want to continue? Is there a new direction you want to take in life or your career? I wouldn’t suggest returning on day one and quitting your current job, but maybe you begin to work with a career coach to identify what a good next step would be.
Before you end the month:
Taking a gap month helped me reorient my priorities and, in particular, the pace of life I was living. I hope that if you are looking for a restart, a gap month can be helpful to you. If you have questions or want to share about your experience, reach out on LinkedIn. I’d love to connect.
Goal setting is the process of identifying specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound objectives that you want to achieve. It involves determining what you want to accomplish, defining clear objectives, and developing a plan for achieving those objectives.
By setting goals, you can clarify your priorities, focus your efforts, measure progress, and ultimately achieve success.
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There are many benefits of setting goals, including:
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Absolutely, goal setting can indeed help you find direction in your life. Goals act like a compass, guiding you towards the things you want to achieve and helping you determine the path to get there. Here's how goal setting can provide direction:
So, if you're feeling lost or unsure about the direction of your life, setting some goals might be a good place to start. Remember to make your goals SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) to increase your chances of success.
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Setting goals is an important process, but there are several common mistakes that people often make. Here are some of the most common mistakes:
By avoiding these common mistakes and setting clear, realistic, and aligned goals, you can increase your chances of achieving your desired outcomes.
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Goal setting is a powerful tool that can lead to success in both your personal and professional life. Setting and achieving goals has been a significant part of my personal and professional life.
When done right, goal setting can act as your personal GPS, guiding you toward success in both life and work. With clear objectives, you can navigate your path and make consistent, intentional decisions that lead toward the life you want to live.
Here's why goal setting is a game-changer:
But for this to happen, your goals must be clear, actionable and your own.
Below, I’ll give a more in-depth look at five benefits, three pitfalls, and an opportunity I believe will help you not only set but also achieve your goal.
Let’s get started. Here's how setting goals can be your ultimate success tool:
Aligning your goals with your values and passions is crucial to ensure long-term motivation and satisfaction. Here are some steps to help you do this:
Remember, when your goals align with your values and passions, you're more likely to feel fulfilled and satisfied when you reach them. It also makes the journey towards achieving your goals more enjoyable and rewarding.
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Absolutely, goal setting can indeed help you find direction in your life. Goals act like a compass, guiding you towards the things you want to achieve and helping you determine the path to get there. Here's how goal setting can provide direction:
So, if you're feeling lost or unsure about the direction of your life, setting some goals might be a good place to start. Remember to make your goals SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) to increase your chances of success.
Learn more about how to effectively set goals.
Prioritizing goals can be a challenging task, but it's crucial to ensure you're working on what matters most. Here are some steps to help you prioritize your goals:
By following these steps, you can create a clear roadmap for achieving your goals based on their importance, urgency, resource requirements, and alignment with your overall life objectives.
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Overcoming obstacles is an important part of achieving your goals. Here are some strategies you can use to overcome obstacles and stay on track:
By using these strategies, you can overcome obstacles that may prevent you from achieving your goals and stay on track towards your desired outcomes.
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Prioritizing goals can be a challenging task, but it's crucial to ensure you're working on what matters most. Here are some steps to help you prioritize your goals:
By following these steps, you can create a clear roadmap for achieving your goals based on their importance, urgency, resource requirements, and alignment with your overall life objectives.
Learn more about how to effectively set goals.
The frequency with which you should review your goals can depend on the nature of the goals themselves. However, a common recommendation is to review them regularly to ensure you're making progress and staying on track. Here are some general guidelines:
Remember, these are just guidelines. The key is to find a review frequency that works best for you and your specific goals. Regular review ensures you stay accountable, track your progress, and make necessary adjustments to your plans.
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The number of goals you should have at one time can vary greatly depending on your individual capacity, resources, and circumstances. However, a common recommendation is to focus on a few key goals at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed and ensure that you can devote sufficient time and energy to each goal.
The truth is, fewer goals mean more focus. AND more achieving.
So, how many goals should you aim for?
It depends on your timeline.
If we’re talking about annual goals, then maybe 8-10 or just enough to cover different areas of your life—like your health, career, and relationships—without leaving you overwhelmed.
8-10 Annual goals will break down to about 2-3 goals a quarter, which allows you to focus your attention and energy long enough to make a significant impact.
Now, if we’re talking about daily goals, we teach in our Goal Focus Coaching Program to have no more than 3 priority actions a day. That may not seem like a lot, but when you stack it day after day, it has over 1,000 priority actions for the year. That impact is huge.
Having a limited number of goals allows you to focus and make meaningful progress. If you spread yourself too thin across many goals, you may find it difficult to make significant progress in any area.
Remember, it's not about the quantity of goals, but the quality of your focus and effort towards achieving them. It's better to fully commit to a few important goals than to juggle many goals without making substantial progress.
Keep in mind that everyone's capacity for goal-setting is different, and what works best for you might be different from what works for someone else. It's crucial to find a balance that feels manageable and aligns with your personal aspirations and lifestyle.
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Goal setting is just the start. Goal achieving is what we all really want, and keeping track is where the magic happens.
At Everyday Design, we want to help you build momentum toward your goals. When you begin stacking daily wins, something magical happens—you feel progress. This momentum fuels your focus and commitment, even through setbacks and detours.
If you want to measure progress toward your goals, follow these steps.
Below I break down each step into more detail to help you stay on the path to success!
Celebrating your achievements is an important part of the goal-setting process. It helps to reinforce positive behavior, keeps you motivated, and gives you a sense of accomplishment. Here are some ways to celebrate achieving your goals.
Remember, the celebration should be proportionate to the size and significance of the achievement. Small victories deserve recognition too, but they might not warrant the same level of celebration as larger, more significant achievements. The key is to find a way to celebrate that feels rewarding and meaningful to you.
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Our five-day short course guides you through the process of identifying your life priorities and scaling them day to everyday decisions.
You’ll learn how to establish a rhythm to build good habits and grow a team that will be with you in the journey.
Our five-day short course guides you through the process of identifying your life priorities and scaling them day to everyday decisions.
You’ll learn how to establish a rhythm to build good habits and grow a team that will be with you in the journey.
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